Are You Truly Ready For Love?

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Many people are inclined to believe that because they feel lonely, they might long for affection, or they have not lived with someone for a while that they are ready for a relationship. But none of those factors is the only basis for a connection. The primary factor is that one FEELS ready emotionally and practically.

If one is still carrying a lot of anger, resentment and bitterness from a former friendship or still feel a lot of confusion and regret, any new relationship will not work out as it will be drowned by negative elements. One has to know what one is seeking before one can recognise it.Furthermore, a relationship is not just about what it will bring you but what you are able to GIVE to that person as well. So where are you now in your life?

QUIZ: Are you Truly Ready For a Relationship?

Here is your chance to find out!!

For each statement, select a reply that DEFINITELY applies to you.

I don't quite know who I am and where I am going.

I don't know yet what I want in my future partner.

I find it really hard to love and appreciate myself.

I don't find it too easy to appreciate someone else.

I keep referring back to my last relationship and feeling bad about it.

I shouldn't have left my last relationship. I think it was a mistake.

I cannot see into the future yet. Everything seems uncertain.

I tend to talk about me and my situation a lot.

I find it hard to praise or to accept praise.

I am constantly thinking about sex and being with someone.

I still live with my ex/partner, though we are emotionally separated.

I feel rather selfish just now, not really part of a potential couple.

I would not be able to spend too many weekends with a new mate.

Time spent with this new person would be limited, in view of my other commitments.

I really don't have time to communicate too much with any new friend.

Just now I think I need someone to really listen to me than anything else.

I tend to be very absorbed in my work and sorting out my home situation.

I desire the company but I don't really want to see anyone too often.

I couldn't take on any more responsibility than I have already.

I just need someone to go out with and spend odd times with.

Thank you for completing this quiz. Note which section you said the most YES to, whether Ques.1-10 or 11-20. The first part deals with your emotions and the second with the practicalities. If you scored MORE THAN 35, you would find one of our RELATIONSHIP WORKSHOPS useful! More than 50 and you definitely need to attend one!

ALTERNATIVELY, you could try one of the ALERT ACTIONS listed after the Scoring Key.

SCORE KEY:
0-14: You are rearing to go, emotionally and physically. Nothing to stop you now. Good Luck!

15-29: You are almost ready. The mindset is nearly there. It just needs some physical considerations to catch up.

30-47: You are in transition, on your way to appreciating a new relationship with someone, but still have some way to go before you feel truly comfortable about it. You still have some doubts though they are slowly receding.

48-65:You have a lot of work to do on yourself, and definitely need more time to do it, though you are heading in the right direction. If you have been like that for a long time, you are probably being hampered by emotional fear and mistrust than anything else. A relationship needs TWO people to work at it. Being ruled by fear and insecuroty won't do make it work. There has to be much more accommodating.

66-80: You are definitely NOT ready for a relationship. It's all about sex or basic companionship just now. The higher the score the more stark this is and the more unprepared you are. You really don't have much to give anyone at present. It means you need much more time to build that confidence, self love and acceptance of your situation, and to work out where you're heading before you become involved with someone else.

What do I do if My READINESS Score is not very good?

There are TWO actions you could take RIGHT NOW!

1. BUY an article with general TIPS on IMPROVING your situation and letting go: cost £3.99($5.50). The article will be sent via email.

2. ASK A PERSONAL QUESTION. Responses within 48 hours, depending on the requirement/urgency.

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