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Currently, there are 107 articles and 6 quizzes on this website. They are indicated by the category buttons on the left hand side, and listed below, for easy access and reference. ENJOY!
How Attraction Works (12)
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The Three Key Elements of Chemistry
A friend of mine recently met someone she described as a 'wonderful' man. But though he was clearly smitten with her and wanted to progress their meeting, she said she didn't 'feel' anything and wondered if any light could be thrown on her situation. If he liked her so much, why was there no feeling of 'chemistry' on her part, she asked?
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What is Attraction?
As random as attraction appears to be between people, there is nothing random about it at all. It works on a complex level with definite rules. Attraction is primarily about one person possessing the qualities to satisfy five crucial factors in another:
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The Secret of The Chemistry Between Two People
Imagine you go out on a date. The guy or gal is charming, you get on like a house on fire, you want to see them again but you still feel that something is missing.
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Do Opposites Really Attract in Relationships?
In my opinion, they don't. That's like an urban myth. We hear a lot of talk and anecdotes about how people who seem so opposite in every way find deep attraction, but something else is always operating between those couples to make the relationship work.
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What Could Prevent You Finding Love?
This thing we call Love, which is often misunderstood, is most likely to emerge from a common connection between two strangers. It then blossoms out of mutual interest, mutual respect, mutual aims and a close friendship.
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Is there a difference between Passion and Love?
Many of us, when we speak about Love, treat Passion as an entirely separate thing from it.
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5 Key Elements That Attract Women to Men
There are five main elements that draw women to men and, depending on the primary needs of the individual woman, they usually go in the following order:
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The Biggest Barrier to Finding Real Love
Simple, naked FEAR: fear of failure, fear of difference, of love, of hurt, fear of the consequences and even life itself, in the futile search for perfection.
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Tips on Finding The Right Partner
At this competitive time in our lives, when the demographics are skewed towards women living a very long life, with an acute shortage of men in the later years, it might look as though eligible partners are thin on the ground.
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Are you single? Why a focus on the future could be spoiling your today
I have read so often the desire of many single people to find the 'right' person to love. Not right for now, for two weeks, or for a couple of years but for the ideal 'rest of my life'.
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Is FEAR Keeping You SINGLE?
Many people who are seeking dates are limited by their fears of a lot of things in their life which they cannot affect, but are vainly trying to control.
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Can Men and Women Be 'Just Friends'?
The short answer is 'Yes', but with conditions.
Finding Your Ideal Soulmate (12)
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12 Lessons in Life (Are You Just an Option for Someone Else?)
1. "To LAUGH is to risk appearing a fool;
To WEEP is to risk appearing sentimental;
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How Finding Yourself First is Essential to Finding a Soulmate
My advert was quite clear: I wanted "a slim, non-smoker and single man, preferably under 200 lbs in weight". I weigh 138 lbs so allowing up to an extra 62 lbs in a partner (over 4 stones) was pretty generous, I thought.
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The Natural Stages of a Relationship
You might believe that a relationship consists mainly of meeting someone, courting them and possibly setting up home together, formally or informally. Not quite so.
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Do You Believe in Love at First Sight?
I set eyes on my ex husband at a civil event and knew that the attraction was mutual immediately I saw him with his friend and spoke to him.
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The First Key Steps in Finding Your Ideal Partner
In trying to find that elusive ideal soulmate, the first step is to work out what you want. What are you looking for, in general?
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The Essence of Love: Testing Your Compatibility With Someone
Some people might wonder why, no matter what they do, their relationships do not work, and they seem to be at odds with partners or dates. It could have a lot to do with the perception of love between the couple and the expectations of it.
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Is There a difference Between Love And Lust?
People like to demarcate between love and lust but they are actually two sides of the same coin. I like to say that my ex husband and I fell into lust.
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Six Tell-Tale Signs of Falling in Love
The tell-tale signs of love, whether for male or female, are not easily missed because they take over one's life for as long as the feeling lasts.
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How do I get others to like me?
Some people have genuine difficulty getting others to like them while others find it almost effortless. Yet, we all have the potential to be well liked right there within ourselves.
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The Main Problem Which Prevents Relationships From Developing
Did you meet someone recently, thought things might happen and everything fell flat?
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Are All New Relationships Based on a Lie?
Anyone can cope with life when it's calm and rosy, but the real character and worth of an individual shine through when there is stress and chaos
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3 Key Reasons NOT to go Into a Relationship
Many people go into relationships with all the best intentions in the world then wonder why they still fail.
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Why Sex When we Are Young is Often Disappointing
Sex can be very different when we are young than when we are older because our perspectives are likely to be different, we are far more experienced and mature and our expectations around sex have been mellowed by age.
Dating Tips (12)
Online Dating Tips (6)
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The Pros and Cons of Online Dating
Online dating is a relatively new phenomenon but it is now the leading method of finding a partner because of easy access, the number of users available and the personal control one has over it.
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Myths About Internet Dating
There is a myth that Internet dating is primarily for weirdos, losers or frustrated housewives but when we are afraid of change, we endow it with demonic qualities. The Internet is likely to be the the ultimate dating vehicle of the future.
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The 6 main types of people who use online dating sites
To the unsuspecting newcomer who is not used to a dating site, everything might seem simple and straightforward: just register and start looking for the ideal date. But nothing could be further from the truth
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5 main reasons online dating sites don't work for some people
Last night someone wrote to ask me how I was doing on this website we were both on because he had decided to leave it. He was 'fed up' of trying to find 'needles in a haystack'.
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8 Tired Online Dating Clichés That Should Be Avoided!
Go on any dating site, especially where Britons are, and it is as if they are all copying each other in a revolving fest of cliches that make you feel you have seen everyone by the time you have been through the first few profiles.
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Do Online Relationships Really Last?
Q. If your relationship/marriage was made online, there's a one in three chance that you will be sitting in front of a marriage counsellor, say expert.
Relationship Tips (12)
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The 4 Key Reasons for Relationships
I found a wonderful person on the internet not long ago, but we had a dfference of opinion on where the relationship should go.
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The Hidden Stages in a Relationship: Which one is yours?
Without exception, all relationships have stages. Even though everyone is unique, there is enough consistency in human action to demonstrate noticeable patterns in behaviour.
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The Main Glue That Holds Relationships Together
If you are a single person, you most likely dream of finding the right soulmate, according to all the ideal attributes you have in mind, and according to the needs you require to be fulfilled.
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Why VALUES Are Important in a Relationship
In any ordinary day two people might meet who come from different sides of the tracks, one a vegetarian, perhaps, and the other a meat eater. Does it really matter in the relationship?
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Can You Ever Have 'Fair Shares' in Relationships?
One of the most common arguments in any relationship is always centred around the notion of FAIR SHARES: Some people come to the partnership believing that, as long as they do their 'half', their 'bit' or their 'fair share' all will be well.
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Is it a bad thing to be really 'needy' in a relationship?
In a single answer, NO. Naturally, it is far better to be independent and not dependent on a partner.
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Do Men and Women React To Betrayal Differently?
If we have a look at men who have been wronged, especially those who caught their spouses in an act of betrayal, we come to the heart of what personal perception is all about.
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How to break up with a girlfriend
Breaking up with a girlfriend is never easy especially when some men are not very good communicators and tend to shy away from the emotional hassle of having to bare their feelings to others.
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Have you ever been 'dumped'? And is there really such a thing?
How often have you heard the sad statement, "I've been dumped" by so and so, or you've used it to bemoan the loss of a valued partner?
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How do you keep a breakup from hurting your self-esteem?
It is very easy for our self-esteem to take a nosedive the minute we have had a break up, especially when we did not instigate it and feel rejected, because breaking-up is emotionally draining. Nothing prepares us for it
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From Dating to Marriage: Rules for Success
It is amazing what transformation in a couple the two little words 'MY husband' and 'MY wife' can bring.
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The Biggest Cause of Stress: Are You experiencing it Now?
Stress affects everyone to some degree, but severe stress is a feeling of being unable to cope and is a reaction to excessive demands and pressures made upon the individual.
Why Relationships Fail (12)
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The Single Biggest Killer of Relationships
So you see the man/woman you fancy across the room at a party. You edge nervously towards him/her, wanting to make that crucial impression. You finally make the connection between you and you feel really happy.
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Top 10 Relationship Issues: How many apply to you?
It is no easy feat putting two strangers in the same space and asking them to become a single couple when they are both complete individuals with their own perceptions, beliefs, identity, aspirations and behaviour patterns.
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The Most Powerful Influence on Relationships
Each of us can name key issues in a relationship that are likely to damage it, but all those issues do not suddenly appear from nowhere.
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Key differences between Men and Women in their perceptions of relationships
Once a couple settles into a relationship it is easy to believe that they will both be seeing eye to eye on routine matters, or they hold similar perceptions on life.
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When Attraction is Gone
Some of the saddest relationships are those of couples who have been together a while and most of the chemistry has gone.
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10 signs that he's just not into you
Sometime when we meet someone new and we do fancy him, it is very easy to ignore the warning signals and miss the fact that they really don't like us in return.
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Do You Feel Neglected in Your Relationship?
One of the biggest causes of breakdowns in relationships is simple neglect of a partner once children appear on the scene.
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Why Problem Relationships Rarely Recover
Very few unions recover when they have reached a destructive stage. They simply worsen because people have long elephant memories and find it hard to forgive, or to pretend about their feelings.
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Sure Signs of Unhappy Couples
The stereotype of a happy marriage is one of two people who like each other, understand each other well, and settle disputes easily without much rancour.
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Three Beliefs That Often Harm Relationships
We tend to have a rosy vision of love coupled with unrealistic expectations of the relationship which it creates.
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The Worst Part of a Relationship: Familiarity and Regret!
Two strangers setting up home together is not an easy thing and many people should be congratulated for getting past the first five years unscathed!
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Marriage: Why is it failing relentlessly?
Marriages are failing in a big way because of a basic lack of trust in them, the increased choices that are available to everyone and the costs associated with divorce.
Couple Dilemmas (12)
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Are you ready for a relationship or just needing sex?
Q. I am currently helping a really nice fella to find his feet with some kind words while he is going through a divorce.
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Should I let him go or not? Or am I overreacting?
Q. I read some flirty messages from his textmate on my boyfriend's mobile phone, and I was so hurt. I told him that I read the messages and he told me, "It was nothing! You are my girlfriend and I do love you! We were just textmates and that's all".
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Does True Love Last Forever?
Yes, it can, but it is unlikely to do so for two key reasons: our own emotional evolution and a lack of reciprocity.
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Why is my fiance pretending that we are 'just friends'?
Q. My best friend told me this yesterday: "We are in relationship for more than a year now and we have already planned to get married. But I was taken back, when he introduced me to his friends as his 'good friend'.
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What happens when we love someone more than they love us?
Q.If you love a person to the extreme, and he or she doesn't love you, do you have the right to still love that particular person?
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Should a person reveal their sexual past?
Revealing your sexual past entirely depends on the two people involved. For many people who are insecure, and desiring exclusiveness, they cannot cope with their partner's past involvement with anyone else.
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Would you go back with a guy or girl who once dumped you?
Q. My ex dumped me over 2 years ago because he said he needed his space. We had been together for 5 years and I never stopped loving him.
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Are you still bitter about a break-up?
Are you still churning inside at the loss of a relationship? Feeling wronged by it? Can't seem to let it go? Wishing you were still together or feeling angry at their actions?
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Why Does The Ring Feel Wrong?
Q. We're both 41, previously married. He has lived with me nearly 2 yrs. Proposed unromantically standing in kitchen with a ring my aunt gave him which was bought from a pawn shop.
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Why did things change so much after my marriage?
Change in any relationship is inevitable because the two people involved are continually evolving from one stage to the next in their lives.
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9 Tell-Tale Signs of Poor Communication in Relationships
Poor communication is the most common complaint by couples (as stated by 68 per cent of couples seeking counselling). Apparently, the average couple talk for only five minutes per day!
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Has marriage become a virtual prison for some people?
There are over 8 million people in Britain registered on dating sites. Considering the small population compared to other countries, that's a staggering amount of Brits using websites to find a partner - and we won't even mention the number of Americans on theirs.
Cheating and Betrayal (16)
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5 Tell-tale signs that your relationship is in danger from an affair
A relationship in trouble is often not addressed by the two people involved perhaps because they prefer to be in denial about it, or they might feel something is wrong but are not quite sure what it is.
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How Should I React if I Catch My Boyfriend Cheating?
Q. I have just found out that my boyfriend (now ex!) has been cheating on me with a friend. This bastard, who wasted a year of my life, has agreed to finish it
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Should Cheating Partners be Forgiven?
Only once. If you keep forgiving that person, respect for you will gradually go as they repeat the betrayal for good measure.
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Does my husband have something to hide?
Q. My hubby works crazy hours and I'm really understanding as he pays all my bills, but Im tired of this crap, let me tell you. Today he's got a meeting every Wednesday at 3.30pm.
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Why Someone ALWAYS Gets Hurt With an Affair
How often do we see requests for friendship, or for lovers, in various advertisements, with the added desire that 'no one should get hurt'.
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My neighbor caught her husband talking to his mistress on the phone. What should she do?
Q. Early this morning my neighbor, who is almost a sister to me, came to me devastated and crying. Last night, she caught her husband on the phone to his mistress.
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Two main things about Cheating that couples do not take into account
I posted an article recently on whether cheating spouses should be forgiven and the avalanche of outpouring emotions on it set my mind exploring the subject further.
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How do I deal with the 'Other Woman' in my house?
Q. My husband brings a woman to the house and introduces her to me as his friend. Now they are together. What can I do? Should I ask the friend about it?
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How does emotional infidelity begin?
Emotional infidelity begins with neglect which itself stems from a lack of appreciation and value.
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Is it really cheating to engage in online relationships while you are married or living with someone?
Q. If you are either married or in a serious relationship, would you consider it to be cheating if your spouse or significant other was engaging in an online relationship with someone else?
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Should I take him back?
Q. My husband and I had a very serious problem that almost ruined our family. He cheated on me many times and this time I gave up.
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If I look at porn while I am in a relationship, is that cheating?
Not at all, assuming we are talking about adult porn which does not involve children.
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What do you think of a 38 year old woman having an affair with an 18 year old boy?
Q. I watched "Dr. Phil" tv show and they had a very interesting topic about having an affair with an older partner. The most interesting story was of a 38 year old woman and an 18 year old boy who happened to be her son's best friend.
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What might cause a soldier's wife to cheat?
There are many reasons why spouses might cheat in their marriages.
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Why No Affair is Ever a 'Mistake'
Often one hears men, particularly celebrities or those in the public eye (British Prime Minister John Major and his mistress Edwina Currie come to mind....
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The real reasons why powerful men cheat!
For most men, sustaining a dream of being rich, successful and untouchable is a natural part of their life, especially from their teenage years.
Improving Your Relationship
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3 Essential Things That Make a Relationship Work
There are three main things that make a relationship work and everything else flows from them:
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Dating Tips for Workaholics
There are some people who are workaholics of their own choosing, either because they genuinely like working, to stave off loneliness
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How low self esteem in relationships often causes people to cheat
Most people who cheat do so because of low self-esteem. It is likely to be something they have acquired during the relationship. Very few people cheat if the relationship at home is satisfying.
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Keeping The Romance Alive After Having Kids
When children arrive, they can be very demanding in a family and usually it's the fathers who are squeezed out of the attention while mothers are often tired and overwhelmed.
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What to do if you are scared of losing him (or her)
When we love someone and we feel they might not love us as much, that they are attracted to someone else, or they seem distant and detached from us, it can lead to many anxieties as to how to keep the love intact.
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7 ways for couples to reconnect with each other
Relationships often go stale and dull when couples settle into complacency. Often the burden of keeping a home and looking after children, who demand constant attention, can rob the partnership of its freshness, vibrancy and excitement.
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How to Recover From a Broken Heart
Broken hearts are mainly caused by unfulfilment of our expectations coupled with low self-esteem
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The Power of 'Listening' to Gain Respect
Everyone in the world mistakenly believes they are seeing the same reality.
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The 7 secrets of staying in love
Judging by the current divorce statistics (an average of 38% of marriages end in divorce in the Uk and even higher in America), there is a lot that isn't right in relationships after the heady days of courting.
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How to keep hope alive during a marriage crisis
It is a most stressful time when there is a marriage crisis because it is easy to feel that one's world is falling apart, slowly and menacingly.
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How to prevent your wife from cheating
Most women cheat through neglect, boredom and being taken for granted. Many people forget a vital factor when they get into a relationship:
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Seven Tips For Having a Truly Happy Relationship
We all seek happiness in our lives, but being happy in a relationship is not so easy to achieve for two important reasons.
All Quizzes
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Test Your Relationship
Whether you are single, fully attached or just dating, this quiz should tell you if your home is being a hindrance or a help to your life journey.
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Are You Truly Ready For Love?
Many people are inclined to believe that because they feel lonely, they might long for affection, or they have not lived with someone for a while that they are ready for a relationship. But none of those factors is the only basis for a connection.
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How Well Do You Match with Your Date/Lover?
Is your relationship going anywhere? Here is your chance to find out!
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Just How Happy Are You Now?
How HAPPY do you really think you are at this time? How SATISFIED are you feeling this minute? Find out now.
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The Interaction QUIZ
How do you relate to others? How do you get on in your work or home? How you treat others lies at the heart of your own progress and success.
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Is Your Relationship in Danger of an Affair?
AFFAIRS DO NOT CAUSE MARITAL DISCORD. They are the SYMPTOMS of the problems already there! How close is your relationship to falling apart?
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